If It’s "Too Early" to Talk About Allowance, It’s Too Early to Talk About Intimacy

Dear Daddies,

Let’s clear something up: talking about allowance isn’t “too forward.” It’s responsible. What is too forward? Asking about intimacy before discussing expectations.

If you’re ready to bring up sex, then you should be ready to bring up allowance — because one conversation cannot ethically exist without the other. Some "Sugar daddies" Looove to discuss what SHE brings to the table but dance around the subject of what they have to offer... and it's SHADY. Period.

💋 The Real Double Standard

Every sugar baby has been there: he wants to talk about what you’d “do,” but when you mention allowance, suddenly you’re “ruining the vibe.” Sir, the vibe was ruined the moment you expected intimacy without transparency.

The truth is, most men who say “it’s too soon to talk numbers” are the same ones who never intended to discuss them at all. They’re testing boundaries — seeing if they can get physical benefits without financial accountability.

🎀 There’s No Universal “Right Time” — Just Mutual Comfort

Some prefer to discuss allowance over text — to make sure everyone’s on the same page before meeting in person. Others like to wait until the first meet and greet, to gauge chemistry and see if there’s genuine compatibility.

Neither is wrong. The issue comes when two people with different comfort levels collide.

If she prefers to confirm numbers before meeting and he insists on waiting until after — that’s not “miscommunication.” That’s a mismatch.

💼 The Rule Is Simple: Match Energy, Not Timing

If he wants to keep things slow and professional, that’s fine. But that means he also needs to keep things platonic until real expectations are discussed.

If she prefers to clarify allowance early, that doesn’t make her “transactional.” It makes her transparent. Because in the sugar bowl, time is currency.

And let’s be honest — just because you’re a big busy businessman doesn’t mean your time is more valuable than hers. Especially when your time starts the moment you arrive, and hers started one to two hours earlier — showering, doing her hair, makeup, outfit, nails, perfume, and the mental prep it takes to show up poised, polished, and present.

Men, you’re not the only one investing effort here. Her time doesn’t begin at “hello” — it begins long before that. So if you want to discuss what’s “too soon,” start by realizing she’s already been showing up long before you got in the car.

When two people respect each other’s boundaries, the conversation flows naturally. But if he’s eager to talk about intimacy while dodging financial discussion, he’s not looking for connection — he’s looking for loopholes.

💎 The Bottom Line

You don’t get to flirt your way into the bedroom and then claim it’s “too soon” to discuss finances. If it’s too early to talk about allowance, it’s too early to talk about sex.

So let’s stop pretending one is classier than the other — they’re both part of the same adult conversation. And real gentlemen understand that respect and reciprocity start before the first date.

Don't be sus.

XOXO,

-The SugarBow Society