Posers, TikTok “Mentors”, and the Exploitation of Newbies

Ah, TikTok — where everyone’s suddenly a “coach,” “mentor,” or “manifestation expert.” The Sugar Bowl isn’t immune to the epidemic. Somewhere between “soft life starter pack” and “how to find a rich man in 5 steps,” a new breed of self-proclaimed sugar baby mentors has popped up.

They promise to teach you everything you need to know — for a small fee, of course. $199 for screenshots from Reddit, $299 if they include a Canva worksheet. Because apparently, you can put a price tag on common sense now.

These women aren’t mentors. They’re marketers.

One of the few authentic communities left, r/SugarBABYOnlyforum, has been calling out this growing trend. Moderators exposed how TikTok “mentors” were stealing forum posts and repackaging them as paid courses. Their warning wasn’t just about plagiarism — it was about safety.

Because when inexperienced women pay for watered-down “sugar school” content, they’re walking into a world that can be risky without proper preparation. The forum’s mods said it bluntly: these courses teach “almost zero practical knowledge,” and women end up getting hurt — scammed, robbed, or worse.

What’s most infuriating? The women selling these courses pretend to be helping, while actually profiting from other women’s ignorance. They’ve turned the Sugar Bowl into a quick cash grab — and the real community is done being silent about it.

The Sugar Bowl has always been built on quiet strategy and shared knowledge.For years, forums like r/SugarBABYOnlyforum and old-school blogs on Tumblr existed as underground spaces where women could share tips, warn each other about scams, and uplift one another — for free.

Now, that sacred knowledge is being turned into “digital products” by people who’ve never even had an arrangement. It’s exploitative, misleading, and dangerous.

These so-called mentors sell empowerment while preying on inexperience. They’re not teaching “finesse”; they’re selling false confidence.

My Promise to You

Let me make this crystal clear:The SugarBow Society will never sell courses, mentorships, or pay-to-play advice.

This blog exists to keep the information accessible, safe, and honest — because the last thing this community needs is another "girlboss" with a course to sell and no real-world experience.

That said, I do love a little structure so I’m working on optional digital tools — things like allowance calculators, mindset journaling sheets, and printable guides — for those who want to organize their goals or reflect more deeply.

But let’s be clear: these aren’t “courses” or “exclusive access.” They’re just tools. The truth stays free. Always.

If you’re genuinely curious about sugaring, go where the real women are:🩷 r/SugarBABYOnlyforum

It’s one of the few spaces left that hasn’t sold out. No gimmicks. No gatekeeping. Just women looking out for each other.

🎀 Final Thoughts

Sugaring has always required discretion, self-awareness, and real research. The problem isn’t that people want to teach others — it’s that too many are trying to monetize sisterhood.

The truth is simple: Real sugar babies don’t charge for advice — they protect the next generation.

Stay safe and stay sexy...

XOXO,

The SugarBow Society