The SugarBowl Glossary: Core Terms Every Baby Should Know

We know, babe — there are so many terms to remember in the SugarBowl. Between all the PPMs, POTs, and Splenda Daddies, it can feel like you need a translator just to step into the world of sugar. Don’t stress — we’ve got you covered. Here’s your cheat sheet to decoding Sugar Speak so you can focus on what really matters: the vibe, the value, and the bag. 💅

🍬 The SugarBow Glossary: Your Go-To Guide to Sugar Speak

Term	Definition / Community Use	Notes & Nuance
Allowance	Regular financial support or gifts provided within an arrangement.	Can be monthly, weekly, or tied to meetups — sometimes includes perks like travel, tuition, or shopping.
Arrangement	The negotiated sugar relationship — terms, expectations, and boundaries.	Think of it as your professional agreement within the SugarBowl.
The Bowl / Sugar Bowl	Slang for the sugar lifestyle or community as a whole.	“Diving into the bowl” means entering the sugar world.
Freestyling	Meeting potential sugar partners organically, outside dating apps.	Could mean mingling at upscale bars, lounges, or events.
FWB	“Friends With Benefits” — a casual relationship that includes companionship and intimacy without traditional relationship expectations.	Often used when someone wants something more relaxed than a structured arrangement.
Meet & Greet (M&G)	A casual first meeting with a POT (potential partner).	Usually held in a public, safe place to see if there’s chemistry before discussing terms.
NSA	“No Strings Attached” — a connection without emotional expectations or exclusivity.	Common in short-term or travel-based arrangements.
Pay Per Meet (PPM)	When a sugar baby receives compensation each time they meet rather than through a set allowance.	Useful when trust is still being built.
Platonic	An arrangement focused on companionship or mentoring rather than intimacy.	Some babies prefer platonic setups for professional networking or guidance.
POT	Short for “Potential.” Someone you’re communicating with but haven’t yet entered an arrangement with.	You might say “POT SD” or “POT SB” while feeling things out.
Salt Daddy / Mama	Someone pretending to be generous but never actually provides meaningful support.	Red flag! These types waste time and often play games.
Splenda Daddy / Mama	A wannabe sugar who means well but doesn’t quite deliver the level of support promised.	Usually harmless, just not as generous as implied.
Pump & Dump (PnD)	When someone pretends to want an arrangement but disappears after getting what they want once.	Major red flag — always vet thoroughly before meeting.
Rinsing	When a baby accepts gifts or money with no intention of meeting or honoring the agreement.	Seen as unethical within the community — don’t do it.
SB / SD / SM	Sugar Baby, Sugar Daddy, or Sugar Mama.	Common shorthand in chats and posts.
Standard Arrangement	A traditional sugar setup with regular allowance, clear terms, and ongoing connection.	Often preferred for stability and predictability.
STA / LTA	Short-Term Arrangement / Long-Term Arrangement.	Some start short and evolve naturally.
Vanilla	Traditional dating without transactional elements.	Often used to contrast the sugar lifestyle.
Peacocking	Showing off wealth or lifestyle to attract partners.	Be cautious — it can signal confidence or just ego.
Unicorn / Whale	A top-tier, exceptionally generous provider.	The rare dream match — handle with grace.
Gift Test	A subtle way to gauge generosity — mentioning a small need or expense to see if the POT offers to help.	A gentle screening tool used by experienced babies.
Negotiation Stage	The part where expectations, boundaries, and allowance are discussed.	Confidence + clarity = safety. Never skip this talk.
Open Arrangement	When both parties are free to see others while maintaining their sugar relationship.	Requires honesty and clearly defined boundaries.
Spoiling	Giving or receiving gifts, experiences, or perks beyond the allowance.	It’s the sparkle of the sugar life — sweet, mutual, and earned.
Vetting	The process of checking a POT’s authenticity before meeting.	Includes background checks, social verification, and intuition. Safety first, always.

Did we miss a term you love? Don’t be shy, babe — The Bowl is always evolving. Drop us a note at info@sugarbowsociety.com if you’d like to suggest new lingo or help keep this glossary fresh. We adore a collaborative Queen. 👑

XOXO,

-The SugarBow Society